I always heard that relationships were hard work and complicated, and I never wanted that for myself. I’m a simple girl. I keep everything from makeup routine to cooking pretty simple, and seeing all of the drama and complexity that was my friend’s relationships was exhausting. I knew that if I was going to be in a relationship, it couldn’t be like that, and given what I was seeing around me, that probably meant that I was going to end up alone. It was a crappy realization, especially when I was going on ridiculous dates wondering if maybe I had been wrong and all relationships really are complicated and things don’t ever quite line up.
Then the man that would become my husband walked into the bar where I worked, and everything changed. The dates that I had been going on had helped me hone down what I was looking for, and more importantly what I wasn’t looking for and all of a sudden, what I was looking for was looking right back at me.
That said, we didn’t start dating right away. Neither one of us had ever been in a serious relationship, so we spent a lot of time getting to know each other, then we started dating, then we started dating seriously. Every step along the way we made sure we were the right fit for each other. And when I realized 2 months into dating that we didn’t fight and genuinely just enjoyed being around each other, I realized that maybe it was possible to have the simple, uncomplicated relationship that I always knew was out there.
We’ve been together for 8 years, married for 4, and have 2 kids. We’ve done long-distance, lived with his parents, moved 1700 miles away from everything we knew and lived together for the first time, and started a business together. And our relationship has always been simple and uncomplicated.
While I have a lot to say about relationships, I know that I’m not an expert and my husband and I are always learning new things about each other and new ways to communicate to keep our relationship strong and simple. I hope you enjoy the tips and insights that I’ve always wanted to share. Feel free to ask any questions!